Adjustments

Marriage is a partnership. It is also an adjustment. You're taking two people, with all their likes, dislikes, quirks and flaws and throwing them together in the same house in a contract that is both spiritually and legally binding. Now, assuming the two haven't been living together before the marriage, suddenly they're thrown together every single day, no break, no change except for the comings and goings necessary for a daily job and errands. For some, for many, this can be a huge stress, and can even cause rifts. So far, my new husband and I cannot get enough of each other, but then again, we hardly see each other. While I am going to work part-time and school very part-time to get my Master's in History, he is working almost full-time (at just under 40 hours each week) and going to school full-time to get his Bachelor's in Architecture and Design. His service in the US Army gives him the benefit of four years of college paid in full. This is a great opportunity for him and I will never begrudge him anything, but it's a terrible strain having him gone from 7:30 in the morning to 10:00 at night five nights each week. Saturdays I get to see him by 6 in the evening, and Sundays, glorious, God-given Sundays, we have the entire day together. This we spend cuddling in the mornings, going to church, and then spending the afternoon getting him caught up on homework for the week. I'm hoping one of these Sundays to take a break and go somewhere fun after church, maybe Davis' Farmland for the giant corn maze, or an afternoon of edification in Boston at the Museum of Fine Arts. My job at a living history museum and our statuses as college students can either get us in free or for a great discount just about anywhere! I've become quite adept at utilizing the system!

A Brief Introduction

Exactly 4 weeks ago today, I was waiting with my bridesmaids in a toddler Sunday School room, waiting for my wedding ceremony to start and finally no longer feeling like I needed to puke. When older women tell you how fast your wedding day goes, they mean it! It wasn't a blur until we got to the reception though. I can remember each aspect of the ceremony with perfect clarity; the vows, the reading, the prayer and first communion, exchanging our rings and being announced as husband and wife. Remember the kiss Prince William gave Kate Middleton? That was my kiss too.
The reception was much busier than I thought. You don't realize how little time the bride and groom actually get to party at their own reception until you are the bride or groom and people keep pulling you away for photos. I missed a couple songs I had wanted to dance to because I was too busy smiling for photos and talking to all my guests! Don't worry, I didn't pull a Father of the Bride and not get my father/daughter dance. I got that and a dance with my 87-year-old grandfather to a Bing Crosby song from the year he married my grandmother - 1945!

Me and Bumpa

I decided to start this blog as a way to capture everything that goes on in this first year of marriage, as it's usually the one that can make or break a couple. We're all adults (presumably) here so I'm not sugar-coating things. I will be blunt but I will not be crude. I want to record as much as possible; the funny, the weird, the frustrating, and the disappointing.

Off we go.....